If you asked, which I know you’re too lovely to, I could list all my flaws and shortcomings in under a minute. Even if I spoke fast, I could fill that minute. I suspect you are the same.
But if you asked me to list my strengths, I would falter after a few seconds.

When asked about our good qualities, we tend to shrug and say, ‘What’s so good about me?’

For me this is probably due in part to my Aussie upbringing, where we tend to be self-deprecating and shy away from tooting our own horns, so to speak. No one wants to be a cocky prick.

And while I believe that self-awareness is extremely important, I also recognise that we tend to focus too much on our weaknesses rather than our strengths. It’s time to give those good qualities a big, loud voice.

Know your limitations, but have confidence in your abilities and don’t be afraid to express them.

It’s absolutely possible to be confident without being arrogant. Understand your strengths and be proud of your achievements. That’s confidence. If you’re gloating though, or using your accomplishments to talk down someone else – that’s cocky. Stop being a dick.

Now, my challenge to you is to think of three of your great qualities, or three positive words that describe you. Every time I’ve tried this I’ve relied on asking others, but today I’m doing it for myself (WAY harder). Here goes:

1. I can see things from your point of view. If you explain it to me, I’ll get where you’re coming from and adjust my stance accordingly.
2. Once I understand something, I can explain it well – my point, some new information, or your perspective to another person.
3. I am intelligent and have a great sense of humour (that’s a two-fer, since 1 and 2 are related).

Now it’s your turn to come up with three. Too easy? (Good on you!) So try for 7. Or 15. Why not 100?! Get positive and lovey-dovey on yourself! Make a list and post it loud and proud.

And I’d love it if you’d share one in the comments. This is the time and place to be confident and talk yourself up a little! It’s a safe space, there’s no judgement here – so come at me!